“Resolutions” : From a Different Lens.

I had my share of “Resolutions” making-n-breaking years. I conveniently blame it on the teenage years when flaunting cool “Resolutions” was the in thing. If I could not come up with special or unique resolution for the New Year then I was not included in the happening circle. It didn’t matter to the girls if we couldn’t keep them for more than 2 days. Anyways, even before I was out of teenage years, I was done with the pretense and keeping up with the Joneses on the resolution thing.

A few years ago, intrigued by the New Year resolution declarations by my contemporaries  (of course, not teenagers anymore), I spent sometime thinking about resolutions and the reasons why they fail miserable. The cycle seemed still the same – “Make New year resolutions on Jan 1. Come Jan 31st all of them are forgotten.”

This rumination made me realize that making resolution itself is not bad. In fact, it can be very purposeful for an individual. Based on my understanding, there are at least four parts to making meaning resolutions and to make them stick:

For each resolution:

Step 1: Define Purpose

Step 2: Set Goals

Step 3: Bring to Practice

Step 4: (If ongoing) Build it as a habit

And trust me, it is still very hard to keep going. But since Step 1 to Step 3 requires immense clarity, effort and time, it just makes sense to keep going with the Step 4, until it becomes second nature.

I still don’t declare resolutions. I just identify purpose and work towards building good habits now. I have bagged very few successes and seen ample failures. Which means that I don’t have luxury to decide just on 31st December, but to continue doing these steps all year long.

New Year Resolution

But then who can disagree with Calvin?

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A Few Possibilities

I try not to check the social media, news channels and papers, online or otherwise, following the sad incidents. Year after year, country after country, it is becoming unbearable. We see and read daily about hundreds of people impacted, but the truth is that there are thousands who are not even mentioned anywhere. They are part of communal wars, riots, religious outbursts, resistance wars etc.

I started looking for reasons. I found them convoluted.  I searched for trigger points, but they look like triggers caused by a big bang phenomenon and not sequential. It will not be easy to pin point the causes now. Some of these disturbances have history since centuries.

And if I cannot influence change in a big way, there are still few small and reasonable things to do.

Time and again, it is proven that mindful living, empathy and respect for others cannot be a wrong choice.

Time Out !!!!

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All In Good Time

In this age and time, when we are all running out of time (all the time), can you imagine being surrounded by not one or two but 14 handsome wall clocks and alarm clocks.

And not one of them shows the correct time.

When my old aunt, who stayed with us for the Labor Day weekend, pointed out that the clock in her room doesn’t seem to show the right time, I casually asked her to check her mobile phone. Then realized that she doesn’t use one. So I went to get a replacement clock from another room. Well that one was funny with its hands giggling in the same place. It needed battery replacement, for sure. I went to the guest bathroom to fetch one; it was never set back correctly once the daylight saving ended.

My son’s room and bathroom together has 4 clocks, which I feel are still few considering that he is perpetually late. One has a fancy character based face, another one is more practical with normal alarm, third one glows in night & has brazen alarm music which can wake the whole neighborhood, and one is digital. All of these were running at least 30-32 minutes fast. That’s a deliberate lead-time that I have manipulated in his clocks. I am sure that he knows about that too. But since I keep changing the lead-time, he is never sure. But this trick is an utter failure. By now he has learned to check time on the mobile phones/ipads/laptops, even TV.

The rest of the clocks in the house were either competing with Usain Bolt or ambling after heavy meal. The one in office was on a different time zone. I had set it like that a few years back when I was working with global clients. I used to change the time frequently depending on the client location. Now I don’t remember which time zone it was set to.

It was embarrassing, considering this happened in my aunt’s presence who also happens to be the family raconteur.

Well. In the moment of need, I got one of the clock set back to show the right time and put it in my aunt’s room.

What about others?

All in good time, my friend, all in good time.

Or

Just before my aunt’s next visit.

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